Lesson of the day: Shut the hell Up!
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It�s been told to me a time or two that I have jabber jaw (I get it from my Momma). And I will freely admit that I enjoy a good conversation as much as the next person, yes I am a talker. But I have learned how to hold a conversation rather than dominate one. Apparently not everybody knows the art of conversation. Just as much as I enjoy talking, I also enjoy listening and trying to offer up reasonable sound advice and helping folks look at both sides of a situation. Hence the reason I went into Social Work. I try not to make everything I talk about be about me because I am really just minute part of this world. There is so much going on 24-7 that has not a damn thing to do with me. I watch the news regularly, I read the newspaper and try to stay current on happenings in my hood and around the world so that I can participate in intelligent conversations with others. I like to hear other people�s opinions and try not to form my own without knowing as much info as possible, sometimes it works sometimes it does not. But how do you hold a conversation with what appears to be a semi-intelligent brotha who cant hear a damn thing you say because he wont shut the fuck up??? Let me explain the situation�. Last night around 10:20 I was in the middle of watching �The Practice� when I turned my head away from the TV in anticipation of falling asleep. Before I could even get comfortable good the celly rings. The number is not one I recognize so I answer. It turns out to be the dude that I met last week in Tahoe. Lets call him D-nice. Even though I was sleepy from not doing a damn thing all day (good reason to be tired, don�t ya think?), I decided to entertain ol boy and conversate with him for a few minutes. Well a few minutes turned into two hours and forty-five minutes that�s right 2 fucking hours and 45 fucking minutes. My phone battery would have long been dead had I not plugged it into the charger while still listening to him ramble on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on�you get the picture, right? D-nice seems like a real cool person. We�or rather he talked about everything from his wife (yes I said wife) and their pending divorce, to his three children (that�s right count �em 1�2�3), to church, education, his job, his life, his future, the president, Sac, Cali, Fort Worth were he grew up, etc. He talked my damn ear off. I swear I have a burn on the side of my face from my damn cell phone getting hot as hell while listening to him. The boy was talking so damn much that I decided to time him. I held my phone away from my ear and watched the timer on the phone, at one point he talked for 8 minutes straight without me saying a damn thing. Ok so maybe I didn�t help the situation none by throwing in my two cents when ever he stopped talking long enough to take a few breaths. I suppose I should have shut up and maybe he would have gotten the hint that it was way past my bedtime and time for me to call it a night. But the real truth is I kinda enjoyed the conversation�.I mean I enjoyed listening. But listening got old real quick. Here it is, Lesson of the Day: Please people, there is nothing wrong with talking, but there is also nothing wrong with listening. Do not, I repeat do not let a conversation be all about you. Give the person you are talking to a chance to actually talk. If you shut up long enough to listen you might actually learn something. And here is the most important lesson of the day: DO NOT CUT OFF A PERSON WHEN THEY ARE TRYING TO EDUCATE YOUR DUMB ASS. One thing that I cannot stand is when people cut me off in mid sentence. It�s annoying as hell and just plain old rude! I would give you the scoop on D-nice and all the baggage he is lugging around (and trust me, it�s enough baggage to take a year long cruise around the world) but I just don�t have the energy. After all I did not fall asleep until some time after 1:30 am. I�m struggling, as it is to keep my eyes open and getting my brain and fingers to work together just to type up this entry. So after two more cups of coffee maybe I will be functioning like a normal person and will be able to give you the juice on D-nice. |
9:55 a.m. || January 26, 2004 |
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