It runs in the family
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Have I mentioned that my Dad has a serious drinking problem?? I would call him an alcoholic. He has been one on and off for most of my life. I don�t know if the knew wife has checked him on his drinking habits yet. I�m guessing she has. She�s very religious. So it�s possible that my Dad is happy right now and so the drinking has cut back. But I suspect this is temporary, it almost always is. I have an Uncle on my Mom�s side that died when I was in elementary school. He was an alcoholic, a serious heroin user and homeless. He was also one of the funniest, craziest men I knew. But his death came as no surprise to me. As long as I had known him he had a substance abuse problem. It�s funny at such an early age I knew what an alcoholic was. I can remember telling my friends that I had an Uncle that was alcoholic. My Uncle had his favorite liquor store. It was his hang out spot. I can remember driving through the hood past the liquor store and peering out my Mom�s car window hoping to spot my Uncle so that I could send a quick wave of hello to him. The church I grew up in was in the same neighborhood that my Uncle hung out. Often times we would walk out of church on Sunday to find Uncle R sitting patiently, waiting for church to let out so that he could say hello. On some special occasions, he would if come into church. Uncle R was my favorite uncle at that time. He may not have had much to give us, but I knew he cared for us. He just had a serious drug and alcohol problem. My Mom�s other brother is currently a recovering drug user. When I say recovering I mean just within the last few months he has tried to get his life back on track. He was one of my other favorite Uncles. His daughters and my brother and I all grew up together and spent countless summers at each others houses. For the last 10 years or so, Uncle C has been a different person. He was homeless, jobless and got jumped quite a few times while living on the streets. He stole from my Grandmother, his wife, his children and his father in law. He was not the same fun person I remember taking us to the park to play for hours. It�s good to hear that he is trying to clean his self up and get his life back on track. I just hope it works for him. I�m spilling all this because it�s important. It�s important for me to know the addictive behavior is in my genes. I have it from both sides of the family and so does my brother. Lil Bro�. Got arrested about three week�s ago for a DUI. His license is suspended for 6 months. He has to go to a special class for drunk drivers, he has to go to court next month and who know what else he will be forced to deal with. I have known for years know that my brother has a drinking problem. I have talked to him plenty about it plenty of times. I have explained to him as a male with male family members who have addictive behavior problems, he is more susceptible to the problems. Lil bro claims he does not want to be like our father. I have tried to make him understand that he is on his way to being just like our father. Most of the time that I spent talking to Lil Bro about his drinking problems, went in one ear and out the other. So I stopped talking to him about them. Maybe this was not the best way to handle the problem, but I didn�t know what else to do. My Mom acts like and Ostrich with her head stuck in the sand when it comes to my brothers problems. She ignores it. Doesn�t say anything about it. Doesn�t do anything about them, yet she continues to send him money. She wants to pretend like her �baby� is perfect. But reality is, he is not. He has a problem. A problem that my Mom has been supporting (whether she wants to admit it or not). I just recently found out that my brother got arrested three weeks ago. My mom has known, but decided she was not going to tell me. I just happened to be speaking to Lil Bro Friday night about his upcoming move back home. I offered to fly to FL. and help him drive his car home. That was until he told me he can�t drive because his license is suspended. I�m mad, disappointed and hurt. But I am also very grateful that Lil Bro was caught. The funny part is, the dummy wasn�t even driving when he got caught (which was a good thing). Lil Bro is lucky. His life may be a little screwed up now, but I can�t imagine what could have happened had he actually been driving and he injured himself or another person. I just hope that Lil Bro realizes what a blessing in disguise this whole situation is for him. I pray he has learned his lesson. I also hope he admits he has a problem and seeks help for it. |
11:48 a.m. || July 12, 2004 |
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